That’s Not What I Thought Was Supposed to Happen…
Spirit Guides can be great helpers and assistants as you navigate your lifetime here on earth. But sometimes things don’t always go as planned. Sometimes you come across unexpected problems with your guides that can be frustrating and hard to understand. Today I’m going to go over a few common questions so that you can learn to connect with your guides properly. If you’d like more information about this topic check out Spirit Guides: 101.
I can’t find my guide.
If you can’t find your guide there is a reason this is happening. Mainly this occurs is because the person simply isn’t ready. Spirit sends everyone to you at the right time, when you are emotionally prepared for the introduction. As humans we think we know everything, but when it comes down to it we’re often going by what we want, not necessarily what we need. Please keep this in mind if you’re feeling frustrated. A secondary issue could be that you’re simply trying too hard and you need to just relax and let whichever guide that wants to flow in, flow in. No expectations. No set ideas of who you will see.
My guide won’t talk.
Unfortunately not everyone is a Chatty Kathy. And this can be really challenging when you want to connect with your Spirit Guide and ask how they can help you. The reality is that there are many different types and categories of guides. Not all of them require a conversation with you in order to do their jobs. As a human being who uses communication to make sense of things and understand situations, it can be beyond frustrating to work without it.
I ran into a similar issue with one of my guides. But after some time I realized that he was a Protector Guide. And we didn’t need to have deep conversations in order for him to do his job. Anytime I feel scared, have a mischievous spirit in the house or am under an energetic or psychic attack – he’s my first phone call. He’s no talk and all action, but it gets the job done. Just because your Spirit Guide isn’t talkative, doesn’t mean he doesn’t have your back.
My guide is kind of scary.
I have not only had this happen to me, but Ive seen it happen to other people as well. The first time I met one of my Angel guides – he was terrifying. He didn’t speak, but just stared at me intensely from under this thick velvet maroon robe. His face wasn’t human and I thought “Oh dear lord it’s going to get me!” But after some research I realized that I wasn’t scared of him because he was trying to hurt me. I was scared because I could feel the immensity of the power that he had in his being. And I had never felt anything that intense before in my experience.
You don’t have to have an all-powerful Angel show up in order to start feeling nervous. In fact many people feel a little scared or nervous when they meet their guide for the first time. The energy level is always positive and loving, but it doesn’t always match what we are used to. And the newness of the experience can sometimes be uncomfortable or nerve-wracking.
My guide doesn’t feel like the right one.
You know, sometimes that brand new pair of boots doesn’t feel that good when you first buy them. And that’s ok because all you need is a little time to break them in. I had a guide show up one day and I wasn’t really feeling him. On top of that he wasn’t super chatty about his arrival either. He never really bothered me, and he never really engaged. He would just be there hanging out, letting me get comfortable with him. So when the time came for us to work together, he felt like the exact right Spirit Guide for the job. Sometimes it just takes a little time to get used to new friends. But don’t feel like you have to work with anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you need to you can ask them to leave until you feel more ready.
My guide disappeared and I can’t find them!
As sad as it is to lose a friend, not all of our Spirit Guides ride along with us for the entirety of our life span here. If you can’t find your guide, it is more than likely their time working with you has come to a close. I suppose if your guide helps you with something like energy work, and you stop practicing, then there is a good chance they may reappear when you go back to it. But if the issue is something you won’t be revisiting, you should thank them for their service, wish them farewell, and be grateful for their help in your life.
I don’t know how to connect with my guide outside of meditation.
I always recommend that you start connecting to your guides through meditation. This is a simple and straightforward way to connect. But as you ramp up your spiritual practice, you can work with your guides outside of this context. Personally, if I want to work with one of my guides, I ask them to come talk me. They have never once, not shown up!
But how you connect with them in a different setting also depends on how you receive your psychic information. For me I am clairvoyant and clairaudient. This means I see and hear. So when my guide appears I may see a vision of them, hear their voice, or a combination of the two. If you want to connect with Spirit Guides outside of meditation, it is important that you know and develop your other gifts properly.